Cerise’s Story – ‘people don’t believe you or witnesses think it’s hilarious and I should be flattered because society views us disabled people as non sexual / non desirable’

I am visibly disabled using either crutches, a manual or power wheelchair as my disability fluctuates.

I find the sexual harassment and non consensual touching varies depending on which mobility aid I am using.  

When I use the crutch it tends to be members of the public  grabbing the top of my arm or shoving me in the back (mainly quite forcefully and physically pushing and pulling me) to get me out of the way – often as they say excuse me, not after, or giving me chance to move – as though that makes it ok.    In fact this pushing me often makes me stumble.  Also lots of people barge past me in ways they wouldn’t dare do to non visibly disabled people 

To try to show support or they are “woke and disabled inclusive ” they will often put their arm around me or rub the top of my back – again without permission.   In effect using me as a prop to show how “good” they are either to themselves or others.

In a manual chair,  I have on many many multiple occasions had people just grab my chair and move me.   In one case I was sitting in my chair on a pavement waiting for my friends car and a man literally just grabbed my chair and wheeled me across the road to “help” despite my shouts for help and that I didn’t even want to cross the road.  I genuinely thought I was being kidnapped.   He was completely baffled when I wouldn’t stop shouting and telling him to get the hell off me and was really angry at me for not “appreciating his help” and called me an ungrateful bitch and  said fuck you cripple to me. 

In my powerchair I have been followed and stalked by men catcalling me saying stuff like you are too pretty to be in a wheelchair, offering to give me an unwanted “sympathy shag” although in public the unwanted touching tends to be less than when on crutches or manual wheelchairs.   When I have reported the stalking or street harassment- people don’t believe you or witnesses think it’s hilarious and I should be flattered because society views us disabled people as non sexual / non desirable (completely erasing the power dynamics at play).


Hannah Mason-Bish View All →

Criminologist and Co-Director of Centre for Gender Studies at University of Sussex

1 Comment Leave a comment

  1. ableds need to stay in their lane. That man was probably, legit, trying to kidnap you. I say this because lashing out and calling us bitches is what they do when we have successfully fended off an attack and we have not been as easy a target as they thought we would be. They do this because it benefits rape culture overall. The goal is to guilt the hell out of you so that you’re more hesitant to yell and more compliant with the next guy. Feeling like you have some sort of obligation to see where this goes and trust that he doesn’t have bad intentions. Hurling insults at you like that afterward confirms his intent.

    Men are always trying to groom women in this way and we attract more attention because we have noticable vulnerabilities. I’m glad that you are here to share your story. Solidarity.


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