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Bal’s Story – Wheeling myself is part of my independence and every time someone pushes me without my consent they take that away from me

I’m a part time wheelchair user and travel on trains a fair bit. Train staff push my wheelchair without my consent every damn time I need a ramp. Most recently (this summer) I asked the staff member to carry my bags so that I could wheel myself but they still insisted on pushing me declaring…

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Emma’s Story – staff commented on a perceived improvement or deterioration in my condition that didn’t actually exist. They even offered to pray for me!

I’m a lifelong disabled woman. My condition isn’t degenerative but the face I present to the world has changed significantly throughout my life. I have a lot of experiences of unwanted reactions (both physical and verbal.) and they really vary depending on which of my mobility aids I’m using. As a child I walked and…

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Marina’s Story – How can we educate each other about respect for personal space? It is a lifelong family, school, societal dialogue.

I can identify with this. As someone who seems to attract people experiencing emotional issues, and has been described as a good listener, I have frequently offered comfort in the form of a hug or hands resting on the sufferer’s shoulder. Since I have had syringomyelia, a neurological condition resulting in acute and chronic pain,…

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Mina’s Story – ‘Sometimes people look at me like I’m ungrateful, and at other times they completely shut down and ignore me and what I’m trying to tell them, as if I’m not worth speaking or listening to. ‘

I have FSHD and use a manual wheelchair to get around safely using both my arms and feet to propel me around. On numerous occasions I’ve had people start pushing me without even asking first which is not only startling, but dangerous since my fingers can get caught in the wheels or my ankle sometimes…

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Lisa Irving’s story

I ask that you please post my story on my behalf. Please include my actual name, Lisa Irving. My adversities have helped me to become a strong, compassionate woman who holds hope when others have lost it, or don’t believe hope exists anymore. Decades ago I began to search for information about my adoption. I…

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Alaya’s story – ‘All my life, I have experienced people putting their hands on me, pushing, pulling, grabbing.. and all the backhanded compliments and invasive questions you can think of to go along with it’

I am 27 years old and I have been blind since infancy. All my life, I have experienced people putting their hands on me, pushing, pulling, grabbing.. and all the backhanded compliments and invasive questions you can think of to go along with it. Today, it astonishes me that in this age of #MeToo and #TimesUp,…

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Lisa’s story – ‘She got very angry and lectured the whole subway car when I told her grabbing wasn’t okay.’

I’m blind. I usually use a guide dog, but also use a long white cane when I’m between dogs or the dog can’t work for some reason. I currently live in New York, but these episodes go back decades to other places I’ve lived, so I tried to specify where they took place. When cell…

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Tai’s Story – ‘It happens with alarming regularity and I am often viewed as overreacting or rude if I take offence.’

I have had so many experiences of non-consensual contact as a wheelchair user I can barely remember them all. It happens with alarming regularity and I am often viewed as overreacting or rude if I take offence. Someone once came up to me in the street and asked if I needed a push. When I…

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Sam’s Story -‘I’m a non-binary autistic person who is often ‘helped’ by people who mistake my wariness for helplessness’

I’m a non-binary autistic person who is often ‘helped’ by people who mistake my wariness for helplessness, but the worst incidence of non-consensual touching I have experienced happened to someone else. I was marshalling at a graduation ceremony, and asked to provide one to one support to a blind woman, with a guide dog, who…

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